Good cop, Bad cop. How Our Two Mom Family Works

My partner Karol and I have been together for 10 years.  We have lived apart and we have lived together.  When we first decided to take the plunge and be a couple she was about to move to Pennsylvania and I was staying here in Virginia.  We knew it was going to be difficult, especially since we were a new couple, but we knew we could do it.  And we did!  Looking back, I actually think it made our relationship better to be apart the first two years.  We were careful not to fight, because we couldn't see each other much.  However, we did manage to see each other at least once every month.  She … [Continue reading...]

Double Take: My Parents Want Me to Stay Local for College

graduation girl

Dear Dr. Wes & Miranda My parents are pressuring me to go to college locally and live at home. That's not the college experience I wanted. I've been accepted to colleges here and in other places, and I want get out of my hometown. Money is not an issue. I have some scholarships and our family isn't poor. What can I do to make them understand? Miranda: Your problem reflects a little issue … [Continue reading...]

Teens Building Their Digital Trail During the Summer: Summertime Blogs

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Digital citizenship is a phrase we have heard a lot recently. Teaching our kids and especially teens to be upstanding citizens online as they are offline is a priority. Creating a positive digital image will affect their future. It is a fact, there will come a time when your child's name will be put through the Internet wash-cycle and how it spins out will depend on how they have maintained it … [Continue reading...]

How Does Your Summer Smell?

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There's a certain smell to summertime. For me, it's a smell you only get early in the day, before others awake, a mix of humid air, sunshine, dirt, and a life that smells good. The smell reminds me of summers at my grandparents’ house far away. I loved being in their home that smelled of old, love, of things from long-ago days. As I sit on my porch-swing hearing semis, dump trucks, and cars … [Continue reading...]

The Downside to Teens and the Mall

teens and the mall

So your teen wants to go "hang out" at the mall? It's Friday night and your tween/teen wants to go to the mall to hang out with his or her friends. The mall seems like a safe enough place to hang out and you've seen lots of other kids there so it isn't like the mall being a Friday night hang out location is a surprise. Though you know that the mall is intended to be a place to purchase all kinds … [Continue reading...]

Why the 4th Of July Is Important for Kids

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Across the country this week, families celebrate the fourth of July. Fireworks. Road races. Camping. Cookouts and summer fun. If you ask a kid what the 4th of July celebrates, you might get answers like “middle of summer”or “I dunno.”Really. With social studies instruction declining in schools because of more essential elements like reading and writing, kids learn less and less about the … [Continue reading...]