6 Tips Teens Should Know About Raising Parents

How to Raise Your Parents

These are just a few things I talk to teens about when I counsel them. They’re things I wish I knew as a teen, too.how to raise your parents

1. Your parents may not know what to do with your emotions, but give them a chance to know how you feel. In the eyes of your parents, you’re still their little boy or girl who’s quickly growing up. They don’t mean to treat you like a little kid or downplay your thoughts or feelings. It may take them time to realize you’re growing and changing. Remember, sometimes you don’t know what to do with your emotions, either.

2. Your parents really do understand. All parents were once teenagers and have memories of insecurities, awkwardness, or bad experiences. If you give your parents an opportunity to know what’s going on in your world, you’ll be surprised how much they can identify with.

3. Don’t shut your parents out of your life or your struggles with peers. While this feeling is normal, when you shut them out of what’s going on at school or with friends, they’re unable to help when you feel alone. They can handle what you’re going through. Don’t be afraid to share with them.

4. Even though they’re uncool, you don’t want them to be your friend. It’s easy to shrink away from your mom and dad or be embarrassed by their lameness. But if they let you do anything so you can be popular, they’d be selling you out to harmful things in the long run. Your parents may not be cool, but they love you and have your back.

5. You won’t always feel this way about your mom and dad. Becoming a teenager includes drawing away from your parents and developing your own identity, beliefs and values. As you grow into your own person, your parents still have the final say for your health, welfare and safety until you’re an adult. Your opinions may differ, but it won’t always be this way.

6. Your mom and dad aren’t perfect. They’re people, too. As you love, honor and seek to understand each other, you’ll do more than survive your teen years, you’ll have a stronger relationship in the end.

Teens – do you struggle in any of these areas with your parents?

Parents, what are truths you need to remind yourself of in your relationship with your teens? Do any of these points ring true for your situation? We’d love to hear from you.

This revised article was originally written by Brenda Yoder for Choose Now Ministries.

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Brenda has a Masters degree in Clinical Mental Health Counseling and a BA in education. She's a speaker, freelance writer, author, counselor and teacher who's spent two decades working with and raising teenagers. She's a mom of four, from middle school to young adult, and lives with her family on a farm in Indiana. She writes about life, faith, and parenting beyond the storybook image at Life Beyond the Picket Fence at brendayoder.com.

Brenda Yoder

Brenda has a Masters degree in Clinical Mental Health Counseling and a BA in education. She's a speaker, freelance writer, author, counselor and teacher who's spent two decades working with and raising teenagers. She's a mom of four, from middle school to young adult, and lives with her family on a farm in Indiana. She writes about life, faith, and parenting beyond the storybook image at Life Beyond the Picket Fence at brendayoder.com.

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