go Should kids in American today be allowed to walk home from school alone?
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Previously I wrote a post here asking that question: Do You Let Your Kids Walk Home from School Alone?
This topic generated a huge amount of conversation on social media, and I discovered there is a wide variation in parenting practices.
Some of the comments shared:
- “…Call me a helicopter mom if you will but I plan to always pick my kids up from school as well as drop them off from the time they go till they are through to 12th grade. I was a teenager once and I know the kind of trouble you can get into. I just don’t want to see my kids make the same mistakes in life as I did at such a young age.”
- “Depends on where you live, the maturity of the child and how far the school is…”
- “It depends on how far away the school is. I was 3 blocks, so I got to come home on my own. High school was over 1 1/2 miles, so it was rare. It is teaching your children to know what is right and wrong, and if they need help, they run, scream, knock on a door, but you can’t always be there, especially when they get into later middle school and high school. Kids have to learn independence and common sense, and if you don’t give them the opportunity, you cheat them of learning to make decisions and common sense. It will never be perfect, but you also have to help your child with trust, and the things you have embedded in their learning. We bring up our children to learn how to let them go, and it can be a rough, bumpy road.”
- “My kids take the bus but last year my 10 year old did occasionally. Unfortunately he had to cross a busy street with a history of cars hitting pedestrians. I walked him home most days.”
- “Never alone….safety in numbers… I think they should always have a friend or two with them.”
- “Still don’t let my oldest, girl, age 14, walk around by herself, outside. We do have a history of my kiddos being bullied in our neighborhood. The school bus lets her off about 1 mile from home, so I either pick her up from school or someone meets her at the bus stop.”
- “Never alone always with another kid.”
- “Junior high, around 12.”
This link is an excellent article from the Lifehacker blog with a survey of 4,000+ parents asking the same question, “Do you let your kids walk to school or play out side alone?” and is one of the most comprehensive, recent sources I found. From this survey, 75% of parents do allow their children to walk to school alone and 25% do not.
Consider these two overarching sides of the conversation:
- http://nottsbushido.co.uk/hotstore/Hotsale-20150822-27763.html Allowing kids with walk home promotes independence and is actually quite safe.
Of parents in favor of allowing their children to walk to school alone, many clarified this includes allowing children to walk home after a certain age (generally middle school, but sometimes sooner), only with other children, and sometimes depending on safety of the neighborhood –including distance from school and available sidewalks.
This NPR story tells of a mom who allowed her 9 year old son to ride the New York subway alone — and the debate that was waged when the story hit the news. To those of us who live in the suburbs, the idea of a child riding the subway alone sends a ripple of terror through our parental skin, but the subway is her family’s main source of transportation in her neighborhood. Her argument is that her son is actually safer if he knows how to navigate through the subway system, how to ask for help, and how to read the maps, instead of only relying on his parents to lead him.
Perhaps the biggest argument for the need for continual adult supervision is what I officially term http www iqoption com The world’s gone to hell in a handbasket philosophy, which is that there are so many more crazy people out there these days doing awful things to children, and it’s our job as parents and caregivers to keep our kids safe. Every day we turn on the news and hear of another missing child, an abduction, or some other terrible incident. This got me curious — are children in more danger than “in the good old days”?
The opposite is actually true, and to an extreme. Crimes in general and especially against children have been steadily decreasing since the 1990s.
Check out these facts, taken from www.freerangekids.com:
http://chennaitrekkers.org/feeds/7157020648705824404/comments/default Abductions in perspective:
Number of children age 2 – 14 killed in car accidents, as passengers: 1300
Number of children killed each year by family members and acquaintances: About 1000
Number of children abducted in “stereotypical kidnappings” (kidnapped by a stranger for ransom or for sexual purposes and/or transported away) in 1999, the most recent year for which we have statistics: 115.
Number of those children killed by their abductor: About 50.
Murders of children by abductors constitute less than one half of 1% of all murders in America.
http://podzamcze-dobczyce.pl/index.html Stranger Danger?
Of all children under age 5 murdered from 1976-2005 –
31% were killed by fathers
29% were killed by mothers
23% were killed by male acquaintances
7% were killed by other relatives
3% were killed by strangers
see url Moral: Your safest bet is to leave your child with a stranger.
SOURCE: http://bjs.ojp.usdoj.gov/content/homicide/children.cfm and http://www.bjs.gov/content/pub/pdf/htus8008.pdf
There is approximately one child abduction murder for every 10,000 reports of a missing child. (Source: Polly Klaas Foundation:http://www.pollyklaas.org/media/pdf/Abduction-Homicide-Study.pdf)
http://big-balloon.nl/bruiloften Put it another way: The Department of Justice reports that of the 800,000 children reported “missing” in the United States each year, 115 are the result of “stereotypical kidnapping” — a stranger snatching the child. About 90 percent of abductees return home within 24 hours and the vast majority are teenage runaways.
Think of it this way, your child is in more danger riding in the car with you while driving to school than walking to school alone.
- 60 sekunden traden I don’t care what the facts are. I’m not comfortable with it and I’m not doing it.
The second thought from parents seems to have less statistics and facts to back it up yet comes from the gut-feeling side of parenting that says, “This makes me nervous and I’m just not doing it.” My kids, my decision. Period.
Concerns expressed included not only what strangers might do, but also what the children themselves might do (getting into trouble), and bullying from other children.
partnersuche ohne anmeldung mit foto My take? http://lokoli.com/?rtyt=site-rencontre-savoie-gratuit&acd=6a I’m in favor of kids walking to and from school when they are mature enough to do so. There’s no exact age, but generally middle school has been the right age for our kids. Safety in numbers is great when possible, but sometimes for logistical reasons it might not work out 100% of the time, and an older middle schooler or teen can safely walk home alone.
Look, a 16 year old can drive a car. An 18 year old can join the military and shoot a gun. It’s time to allow them to walk home from school unattended.
As much as we long to protect our children forever, it’s impossible. It’s also not within our power, as much as we would like to sometimes pretend it is. We are raising a generation of kids wrapped in proverbial bubble wrap. They are growing up, moving out, and moving right back home again, unequipped to deal with the real world.
No matter what we choose as parents, at the end of the day, each of us has to do what feels right and ultimately live with our decisions.
http://agencijapragma.com/?kiopoa=cambio-euro-franco-tempo-reale&0e1=91 About Sara Borgstede: Sara is a triathlete, speaker, and writer. She has been maintaining a 100 lb weight loss for 10 years, and runs an online faith and fitness program for women, www.faithfulfinishlines.com. She is mom to 5 kids through birth and special needs adoption, and she and her husband Mike, were foster parents to 35 children.
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