Sexual Abuse and Your Kids
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go to link Pru’s cousin had molested her at those family gatherings. It blew the family apart when Jamie confronted her brother and his wife about their son. The sad truth is, this is not unique. 85% of molestation is done by a family member, or someone known and trusted by them. As a parent, the more informed you are, the more attuned to your child’s behavior, particularly when they seem “off” to you, the faster you can step in, if something is wrong.
source url Here are some telltale signs your child may be being sexually abused. No single behavior indicates child sexual abuse – except disclosure. If several of these apply, begin asking clarifying questions.
- Recurring nightmares
- Eating habits suddenly change
- Inexplicable mood swings
- Draws frightening images
- Plays in sexual ways with toys (like stuffies)
- Develops a fear of certain people or places
- Mentions a secret shared with an older child or adult, but won’t talk about it
- Has different names for private parts than she/he was taught
- Regresses to younger behaviors (such as bed wetting)
- Becomes uncharacteristically clingy and anxious
Sheri came from a very strict home. The only people who babysat them when they were little were their grandparents. In high school she and her sisters were driven to and from school. They were not allowed to take the school bus. They attended church, where both parents were quite active. Sheri was a junior, her older sister a senior. The baby of the family, completing a trio of girls, was nine.
Sheri always wore high necklines and long sleeves, no matter the weather. Beautiful, with long glossy auburn hair, she excelled scholastically, was shy, and at sixteen was not allowed to date. She had a best friend who also attended the same church.
Tessa, Sheri’s friend, risked detention that day to follow Sherri into the bathroom. Tessa had grown increasingly worried for her friend. Something wasn’t right. She slipped through the door. Sheri wasn’t immediately visible, having taken a right turn further into the bathroom, but the mirrors over the sink gave her away. Tessa’s hand flew to her mouth when she saw Sheri, pocketknife in hand, crying as she cut herself.
Sheri had told no one, but when she saw her father begin grooming her younger sister to take her place, her hard fought-for façade of normalcy began to crack. Tessa insisted Sheri come to her house and talk to her mother. The entire story tumbled out. Tessa’s mom went to Sheri’s and broke the news to her.
go In pre-teens and adolescents
- Cutting oneself (or otherwise hurting oneself)
- Changes in eating habits, excessive dieting or eating
- Sudden unexplained changes in personality (mood swings, or insecure or withdrawn)
- Outbursts of anger
- Talk of suicide, suicide attempts
- Depression or anxiety
- Running away from home
- Drug or alcohol abuse
- Unexplained money or gifts
you know that more than 50% of children wait up to five years before disclosing abuse? If you know what to look for, and create the climate for disclosure by asking clarifying questions you will stop the abuse. As a parent, your best defense is to teach your children early about how special their bodies are, and what appropriate boundaries are. (Do’s and Don’ts for parents) But if the unimaginable happens, know that the sooner you are able to stop the abuse, the more positive the outcome.
cupid dating site uk About Laura Landgraf
Laura Landgraf is an author, activist, speaker, and life coach. Her mission is empowering women and men who survived childhood abuse. In the process, she believes we protect our children. She encourages her audiences to question, reach, journey to self-discovery, believe in themselves and soar. She has worked with the Victim’s Assistance Program in Southern California, led adult support groups for the Center for Missing and Exploited Children, and trained college staff psychologists in child abuse patterns, crisis intervention methods and brief therapies. For more information, please visit http://lauralandgraf.com.
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