Special Needs Tween Struggles to Find Friends


My son started middle school earlier this month and there have been lots of changes since elementary school — changing classes, having a locker and a whole new social structure. Gone are the days when boys and girls ate lunch or hung out at recess together. Also apparently gone — having moms set up play […]

What Are We Teaching About Friendship?

teaching about friendship

We all want to find friendships that are meaningful and fulfilling with like-minded people who share our interests and values. As parents, you want the same for your kids. But could you be sending the wrong message? Sometimes we worry so much about just having friends (for ourselves and our loved ones) that we don’t […]

Time Stops

Time Stops

Time Stops  25-September-2012 I hope to be accurate when I state that, at some point or another, we’ve all had a moment when Time Stopped.  If we’re very very fortunate, we’ve had many.  More good than bad, and the good so very far outweighs the bad such that no matter how slow time passes during […]



Apologies I’m going to open with a short discussion Ezra and I had recently…  we had an incident where an adult’s conduct was less than stellar in front of Ezra.  If my children get out of line, I expect them to apologize and make things right.  I expect that from adults as well.  Kids are […]

A World Without Heroes Video Discussion

I had a wonderful conversation with Stacey Seguin, owner of paloozaonline dot com. She is a regular reader of tentotwenty and agreed to participate in a video chat about our respective perspectives on Brandon Mull’s A World Without Heroes. Be sure and read my review of the book here, and let us know your opinion […]

Double Take: Everyday Suicide Prevention


Dr. Wes: While suicide is the third leading cause of death among teens (ranking behind accidents and murder), it remains thankfully rare. About 1,500 teens are known to commit suicide in a given year in the United States. Each incident asks us to reexamine our communities and ourselves to consider why it happens at all. […]

Old-Fashioned Friendship

The glare of two computer screens in a dark room assaulted my retina as soon as I walked into my daughter’s bedroom to say goodnight to her and her friend, who was spending the weekend with us. I immediately reminded them of the lateness of the hour and the No Electronics After 8pm policy. “Let’s […]

Double Take: Real Life Advice for Parents and Teens–Brazilian Waxing for Teens? We Smell a Rat.

 Dear Dr. Wes: I’m seventeen. My girlfriends told me that if I want to get with a guy I need to get a Brazilian Wax; and that all the boys they know will only be with me if I do it. I assume you know what that is. It sounds terrible to me and it […]