In the Game of Discipline, Who Wins and Who Loses?

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When you have teenagers, discipline takes on a whole new meaning. As do the ‘crimes’.  I mean, when they were little, it was time out, and it could be multiple times a day.  Some days I wished someone would put me in time out.  In our house, they would get the occasional swat on the […]

Finding Value In Family Relationships

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In one week, our family’s downsized. College Graduate moved to the East Coast and College Boy returned to the university. That leaves the High Schooler and Junior, the middle school boy. “Our fun little family of four” I call the rest of us. There’s a lot I like about a smaller family. We can go places […]

6 Tips Teens Should Know About Raising Parents

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How to Raise Your Parents These are just a few things I talk to teens about when I counsel them. They’re things I wish I knew as a teen, too. 1. Your parents may not know what to do with your emotions, but give them a chance to know how you feel. In the eyes […]

Appreciating the Small Gifts in the Sandwich Years

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The Sandwich Years of Midlife I am a 40-something. Mother of three, wife of one, daughter of two—one of which, my mom, has Alzheimer’s Disease. Looking back on the past year, it was really the time that it started to sink in—I AM in the “sandwich years” that everyone has told me about. I knew […]

Autism: Summer Isn’t Always Carefree

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Summer is nearly half-way over, but the carefree summer days most of us remember as children and teens is not the usual case for teens on the autism spectrum. More often than not, school and therapies continue. My husband and I are parents to a 12-year-old son on the autism spectrum along with a 10-year-old […]

Good cop, Bad cop. How Our Two Mom Family Works

My partner Karol and I have been together for 10 years.  We have lived apart and we have lived together.  When we first decided to take the plunge and be a couple she was about to move to Pennsylvania and I was staying here in Virginia.  We knew it was going to be difficult, especially […]

5 Tools to Help The Summer Curse of Unstructured Time

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Every summer parents have mixed emotions about school ending. You’re excited to have the busyness of school over, but there’s angst in having unstructured time with kids at home. Routine is nice. Several summers I’ve planned routines with activities and chores for quality family time and my sanity. How else do you keep kids occupied […]

How To Organize Your Teenager’s Room – Part 2

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If you’ve read the first part of this series, you may now be ready for some concrete suggestions on how to find peace. This isn’t easy, and it may not ever be solved to everyone’s complete satisfaction, but I believe there are some boundaries that can be negotiated to alleviate a lot of the stress.  Here’s a […]