When You Have a Sliding Door Moment

lisa fuller

A favorite time of day for me is when my family has gone to bed. The children are all tucked in, I crawl into bed, and get to chose from my stack of great reads. One recent evening, my 13-year old son came into our room. Just as I was settling into cozy contemplation, about to […]

Waking Up My Kids Was a Mistake

stop waking your kids up and let them do it themselves

I’ve made this mistake so often it has turned into a bad habit.  I know better, but some things are beyond my control. If I could take it back, I would. The consequences tend to be nuclear, I should have learned by now. Waking up my son every morning is one of my biggest mistakes. […]

Marketing to Kids – Why I Don’t Do Energy Drinks

do you let your teens drink energy drinks

Kids and Energy Drinks When energy drinks first came out, I decided they’d be off-limits for my middle-school and elementary-age kids. They had enough energy as it was, why would you give them more? From experiences teaching and counseling teens, I see inerrant dangers when kids use unnecessary substances to alter behavior. It sets a […]

An Open Letter to My 16 Year Old on Her Birthday

a letter to my daughter on her 16th

Dear Miss C, Today you turn 16 years old. As much as I would love to sit here and offer you pearls of wisdom as you wade into womanhood, I think it’s finally time for complete honesty. I don’t know shit. For 16 years, I’ve done my best to prove that I know best and […]

Private Parts, Public Display and Parenting Boys: A Mom’s Perspective

when boys express themselves

He Drew a WHAT?! A mom of girls recently posted a question to me as a mom of boys, “What is the allure in drawing penises? I just don’t understand!” She was shocked at the large “thing” drawn on her driveway by a high schooler at her daughter’s party. I smiled. As a school counselor for […]

10 Things NOT to Say to a Gay Parent

things you should never say to a gay parent

What You Shouldn’t Say to a Gay Parent So I have read a few funny posts lately about “if latinos said the things white people say” and if “asians said the things white people say.” Also, things you shouldn’t say to a lesbian, or a gay dad, and I decided to add my list of […]

Finding Value In Family Relationships

family fun time

In one week, our family’s downsized. College Graduate moved to the East Coast and College Boy returned to the university. That leaves the High Schooler and Junior, the middle school boy. “Our fun little family of four” I call the rest of us. There’s a lot I like about a smaller family. We can go places […]

Unchaperoned at the Bus Stop (!)

Bus stop photo

I won’t be needing this anymore, I thought to myself with almost the same amount of wistfulness that the grandma in the Dunkin Donuts commercial had while retiring her baking pan when Dunks started making muffins. In my case, it was the 3:30 p.m. alarm I had set on my cell phone that I dismissed. […]