Four Tips for Moving with Your Tween
Helping Your Tween During a Move
Raising a child in their early teens can be incredibly difficult. As they transition from childhood to adulthood their hormones and emotions are going to be all over the map. Tweens are difficult to understand and even more difficult to communicate with. To a tween, moving to a new neighborhood and a new school may seem like the end of the world. If you are planning to move with your tween and want to make the process as stress free as possible, here are 4 tips to make moving with your tween a bit easier.
Be Honest About the Move
Many parents keep a move a secret until the last-minute. They think that by staying quiet they will be able to save themselves weeks of arguing and emotional outbursts. Keeping the move a secret is only going to make things worse, especially if your tween finds out about it from someone other than you. Be open and honest throughout the entire process. Ask your child for their input and make them feel like they are a part of the move.
Throw a Going Away Party
A week or so before it’s actually time to go, throw a going away party for your tween and them friends. This party will not only make them feel special, but will give them a chance to say goodbye to all of their friends in a fun and exciting environment. Invite a few of your friends from the neighborhood, too.
Give Them a Job to Do
Give your tween a job to do. Asking them to help with the move will make them feel like they are a part of the team and make them more likely to want to help on moving day. Giving them a job like researching cool places to eat or see a show near your new home could get them excited about their new neighborhood and make moving a little bit easier. Just be sure that when they give their input, you actually listen and try to include their ideas in the moving process.
Give Them the Freedom to Make New Friends
When moving to a new city you may be wary of letting your tween go out to parties or visit the homes of friends whom you do not know very well. Despite your concerns, holding your tween back will only keep them from making friends and make them resent you for making them move in the first place. Spend time talking to your tween about things like drugs, drinking and sex, but give them the freedom to meet new friends and have faith that they will make the right decisions. Whenever possible, get in touch with the parents of your tweens new friends to introduce yourself and let them know that you care.