My Teenager is Pregnant, What Should I Do
You have high hopes for your one and only daughter. She is the apple of your eye. Somehow, your teen acknowledges that she has to reciprocate your love by having good grades, and living up to the values you have taught her. This makes you very proud! If this continues, you see a bright future ahead of her. Nevertheless, your teen is no longer a baby. Each day she walks out of your house, you see a different girl. You hate to admit it but your baby is becoming a woman. She already has the curves and a charm that her male schoolmates find quite hard to resist. So, what is the problem then?
One day your teen tells you she is inviting someone over for her birthday.
The next week, your teen is in a relationship. You keep a watchful eye over them.
Two months later, your teen’s behavior begins to change. Worst of all, you see the SIGNS of a parents’ greatest fear…
In just a few days….the confession: “Mom, Dad…I think I am PREGNANT!”
Naturally, you are devastated! Your world turns upside down. Your teenager is going to become a mother…So, what do you do?
Yes, I know, the first reaction of a parent is that of anger. You might hurl hurtful words at her. This, of course, is understandable. However, this may worsen the situation. Your teen told you in all honesty her dilemma, which means that she is seeking your help. Whom else would she consult, but you? Remember, it is not a dream for yourself, but a dream for your daughter that has been broken.
- Listen. This is very important. What your teen needs now is someone who will listen, and not someone who will drive her away. If you are scared, remember she is more scared than you are. She is at a loss about what to do.
- Talk. It is your turn to talk to her. You may ask her if her boyfriend knows already.
- Invite your teen’s boyfriend (who is also going to become a teen father), and his parents for a meeting.
Meeting to Discuss Options
Once a meeting is set up for both parties, discuss the options with them.
- Single Parenting
- Joint Parenting
Explain to your teen the pros and cons of each option. You may suggest what you think would best fit the situation, but leave it to them to make their own decision.
Doctor’s Monthly Checkup
If your daughter is in her early teens, then her body is not yet fully developed. She may have health problems during her pregnancy, and in giving birth. Closely monitor her nutrition and health with regular Dr. Appointments.
Support at School
Most teens are worried about what her schoolmates will say, and do not want to go back to school. Assure her that being pregnant does not inhibit her from finishing her studies. She can still see a bright future ahead with her child.
Teenage pregnancy is a lifestyle change in itself. As parents, welcome the opportunity of being grandparents. Just think of it this way, you are truly blessed to have another bundle of joy in your family!
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