The Sound of Music and the Price of Parental Sanity

Music in the house

When I was a second grader somebody let me pick up and scratch out a few notes on a violin. I can’t fathom why I wanted to. Might have been a Laura Ingalls middle school orchestrakind of thing. The class was held in a building I remember looking a little like a one-room schoolhouse. It was probably just one of those portables dressed up in my fantasy.

I did go all out for gingham and braids at age seven, though.

I was not a good violin player. I think it had something to do with fatigue brought on by carrying the thing to school. By the time I hit the crosswalk, my arm was about to fall off. The case must have been made of lead or something. I needed a pack mule.

I was also the shortest kid in the whole student body clear through third grade. I was probably dragging it on the ground the whole route, which couldn’t have helped it sound any better.

When my son Jack decided to play the violin in the 5th grade (they, wisely, start them later now in our district), I procrastinated until the store had run out of rentals. They’d run out of their stash of used instruments for purchase as well. So we ended up buying what I’m pretty sure is a Stradivarius.

This thing should have done the dang dishes, as much as it cost.

Just as we finished paying it off, Jack’s brother Colin decided he wanted to pick up the viola.

He’d already started on the piano.

And some sadist gave him a drum set once.

He doesn’t really even need a drum set since he drums his fingers, stamps his feet, and clicks his tongue ALL THE TIME. I swear, if blinking his eyelids made noise, he’d give himself a facial tick hammering out a beat.

I’m okay with the expense of musical instruments, and now music lessons, since Jack wants to continue with the violin even though now he’s at a school that doesn’t offer orchestra.

There’s the added cost of a little teensy chunk of my sanity as well, pretty much daily. It comes from tracking who has practiced what and for how long. I usually barely even register on the Tiger Mom scale, but if I’m going to pay for lessons and instruments and schlep people to their instructors’ every week, someone’s going to practice.

This occasionally requires my throwing a huge hissy fit a la Joan Crawford and her wire hanger (more often than I care to remember with the belated realization that all the living room windows are open and the neighbors are congregating on the sidewalk).

There’s something incongruous about yelling your kid into practicing Ode to Joy.

But every year they’re given the choice of whether to continue. And every year they do. I figure when someone gives up their Stradivarius, I’ll pick it up myself, maybe, skipping the braids and the gingham this time.

But for now, they’re both sticking with it. So I’m sticking with the occasional Joan Crawford imitation, and the risk of someone contacting the authorities.

No one here is destined for Juilliard, but maybe advanced math concepts or a new language will one day be a little easier for them because of the synapses that are currently forming in their adolescent brains.

In the meantime, as the school year came to a close, I found myself looking forward to a break from lessons and practice tracking sheets.

I rather suspect the neighbors were too.

A version of this post originally appeared on Beth’s blog: Manic Mumbling | Musings of a Mostly Mediocre Mom


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About Beth – Beth Markley blogs about bumbling through parenthood with a teen and a preteen at Manic Mumbling: Musings of a Mostly Mediocre Mom

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