Social Life? What Social Life?
- Having teenagers means you have a revolving door of people in and out of your house. You may plan for your family to be home for an evening only to find they each have plans. Or, your meal planning may expand as each of them brings friends or a significant other to the house. Learning the art of flexibility is critical for your sanity.
- Your social circles revolve around your children’s activities and sports. Our own circle of friends have grown and changed as our children enter different phases and participate in different activities. You may never think you’ll go anywhere other than the bleachers or the ballpark, but you will.
- It takes effort to cultivate close friendships, but it’s worth it. Even though you might not have time to go out with friends as an individual or couple, maintaining meaningful friendships during these years is important. A positive aspect of social media is staying in touch with friends even though your social time is limited. Those friendships will be important when high school activities come to an end as kids go to college or move out.
- It’s okay to limit outside commitments because your family is only home for a few years. My husband and I have cut back on church, community and extended family commitments in recent years because evenings at home with our teens are rare events. When it happens, we want to be available to enjoy and embrace it.
- You’ll have many years to have a social life again when your kids are gone. I was the youngest of four children. When I went to college, my parents suddenly started doing things like going on cruises with other couples and traveling to Europe with friends. Their new-found freedom brought them a lot of joy with couples they’re still friends with today.
Do you struggle with the lack of social time in this season? Or do you struggle with maintaining an over-busy schedule with teenagers, wondering when it will end? Share your struggle or story with us. We’d love to hear it!
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