Puberty is something that almost always causes plenty of waves to go through the life of any given family. Although it may not seem like it, teenage rebellion has always been here in one form of another and it really is a natural process that one cannot completely prevent. However, responsible parents nevertheless need to know how to respond to their children’s rebellions and how to prevent any further problems that might later emerge from that.
What Is It All About?
Perhaps you can still remember your teenage years and how radically your world has started to transform. Your parents were starting to have less and less influence on you and you were drawn to your friends and peers even more than before. Maybe you have even started to evade your parents in one way or another, wishing to spend more time with your best friends by going to the cinema or a disco instead of spending a night in front of the television with the rest of the family.
Well, there you go – that is exactly what your own children are also going through. The exact details might be a bit different – after all, nobody goes to cinemas that often anymore – but it is almost the same thing. And, as a responsible parent, you have to realize that trying to fighting it with more authority might spark even more distrust and feelings of anxiety.
What Can the Parents Do?
There has to be something I can do, I can see you thinking right now. Well, yes, there is plenty of ways you can use to make all those acts of teenage rebellion more manageable and less harmful to your family relationships.
First of all, make sure that you do spend some quality time with your children and that you listen to all they want to say. They are going through a very tough phase of their lives and they may need a helping hand that could help them find out what is really happening. You can share your own hilarious teenage stories – I am sure that there must be plenty of them – with them to let them know that there is nothing wrong with being rebellious. Not only will then they be able to make all those connections, they will also be able to feel comfortable enough to trust you and tell you about their everyday worries.
Allow them to do at least some of those things they want to do – there is no point in trying to be too oppressive, as that will only lead them to think that they have to avoid you in order to get everything they want. Give them a feeling of independence and be there whenever they might need your help. That is almost certainly the right way of doing things – and almost everyone I have spoken to thus far has agreed with me on this particular point.
Teenage rebellion can’t be stopped – but, if you adopt the right stance and deal with it in a careful and responsible manner, you should be able to deal with it and ensure that it is not going to become an overwhelming problem that could break your family apart. You should make sure that you are not going to repress your children just because they have different opinions on various issues, but there can be no harm done in trying to maintain at least some kind of authority. Listen to your children, try to understand them – and don’t be afraid of guiding them whenever it seems necessary to do so.
About The Author
Jeff Mcneil is a proud father of 2 wonderful kids and he is a contributor on various online publications. He writes for Chrissy Weems website.